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How to Influence by Making People Feel Good

People are far more likely to do what you ask, to accept your point of view, or help you out if they like you and you make them feel good. So, liking is one of the keys to influence and persuasion. So, how can you get people to feel good and feel positive about you?

Watching this video is worth 3 Management Courses CPD Points*.
πŸ”Ž See below for details

Influencing and Persuading
This video is part of course module number 2.6.1
Program 2: Manager as Communicator
Course 6: Influencing and Persuading
Section 1: Basics of Influence and Persuasion

Other videos in this section include:
🎬 The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly of Influence and Persuasion https://youtu.be/V6yNgVVCAl8
🎬 The Core of Influence & Persuasion: Ethos, Logos, and Pathos – Character, Reason, and Emotion https://youtu.be/GV0TGdhc1kw
🎬 Ethos: the Importance of Character in Influence & Persuasion https://youtu.be/QRlhd9hJm_s
🎬 Appearance Matters in Influence & Persuasion https://youtu.be/lSyAf9Htr7A
🎬 How to Use Your Authority to Influence & Persuade https://youtu.be/NpiPqZYt0vM
🎬 How to Build Trust. And Why it Matters in Influence & Persuasion https://youtu.be/88UfnxnZWTc
🎬 How to Use Reason and Logic in Influence & Persuasion https://youtu.be/dzyu8ApJ-_c
🎬 How to Influence People by Appealing to their Emotion https://youtu.be/yOFsPPgrS30
🎬 Tit-for-Tat: How to Influence with Reciprocation https://youtu.be/x9h-rEvfyrs
🎬 Matching & Mirroring: How to Influence by Building Rapport https://youtu.be/DRR0P5Yidpw
🎬 KISS: Keep It Short & Simple when You Want to Influence & Persuade https://youtu.be/4mQZoX-wT28

= = LESSON NOTES = =
Four techniques
1. Compliments
One of the greatest compliments you can pay to someone is to remember their name. If you have trouble doing this, take a look at the video on our sister channel: https://youtu.be/zGTnlFHzbgE

2. Familiarity

3. Similarity
FROGS:
β€’ Friends and relations
β€’ Reading and viewing
β€’ Organizations
β€’ Geography
β€’ Social and Sports

4. Sincere Interest
β€˜Talk about me, and you’re talking about my favorite topic!’
So, ask questions and listen carefully to the answers you get.

The last topic related to making people feel good is your ability to build rapport. For the moment, I’ll stick with smiling, compliments, familiarity, similarity, and sincere interest. We have a video about rapport-building, later in the course.

🎬 Matching & Mirroring: How to Influence by Building Rapport https://youtu.be/DRR0P5Yidpw

= = RECOMMENDED EXERCISE = =
Practice using these three techniques over the coming weeks.
1. Week 1: Choose one and deliberately use it throughout the week. At the end of the week, evaluate what changes you have noticed. (2 MC CPD Points)
2. Week 2: Keep up the changes you made in week 1. And choose another and deliberately use it too, throughout the week. At the end of the week, evaluate what changes you have noticed. (2 MC CPD Points)
3. Week 3: Keep up the changes you made in weeks 1 & 2. And choose another and deliberately use it too, throughout the week. At the end of the week, evaluate what changes you have noticed. (2 MC CPD Points)

= = DOWNLOADS = =
Free Resources
🧰 CPD Tools – https://gum.co/MC-CPD
Paid resources
🧳 Management Courses Onboarding Kit – https://gum.co/MC-ObK ($3)

= = RECOMMENDED READING = =
πŸ“– My own book on Influence (introductory level)
– How to Influence in Any Situation (Brilliant Influence 2nd Ed) https://geni.us/dAS7
πŸ“– Excellent books at a more advanced level
– Influence: Science and Practice (a classic) https://geni.us/DIX0kFL
– Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change https://geni.us/3nBJM
– The Influence Agenda (for Stakeholder Engagement) https://geni.us/InfAg
– Methods of Persuasion https://geni.us/EVYP
– Presuasion https://geni.us/aBZo0XO
– 5 Paths to Persuasion https://geni.us/Vg2vB

⭕️ Links to our book recommendations are affiliated through Amazon

Managers Need a Basic set of kit to do your job well. Here are my top recommendations: https://kit.co/MikeClayton/manager-s-work-kit (the links are affiliated)

= = MANAGEMENT COURSES CONTINUING PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT (CPD) POINTS = =
You can record your Management Courses CPD points on our free, downloadable CPD record log.
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– If you simply watched the video, record 3 MC CPD points
– If you also carried out all of the recommended exercises, score a total of 9 MC CPD points

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Paradox of Choice: Influencing through Selection
Momentum: How to Make it Easy for them to Say ‘Yes’
The Jiminy Cricket Effect: Cognitive Dissonance and the Urge for Consistency
Getting Agreement by Slicing up the Pie
Use the Power of Scarcity with Integrity
Peer Pressure: The Awesome Power of Social Proof
The Power of the Word ‘Because’ in Influence and Persuasion
WIIFM? How to Use Self-interest to Influence and Persuade
Forgiveness: How to Get Forgiven
How to Change Someone’s Mind
Get a Favor: How to Get Someone to Help you or Do You a Favor
How to Win an Argument
Social Proof: Recruiting Support for Your Verbal Persuasion
Help them Persuade Themselves: the Influence of Questions
Persuasive Language: How to Influence with the Words You Choose
Rhetoric: The Golden Key to Verbal Persuasion
KISS: Keep It Short & Simple when You Want to Influence & Persuade
Matching & Mirroring: How to Influence by Building Rapport
Tit-for-Tat: How to Influence with Reciprocation
How to Influence People by Appealing to their Emotion
How to Use Reason and Logic in Influence & Persuasion
How to Build Trust. And Why it Matters in Influence & Persuasion
How to Use Your Authority to Influence and Persuade
Appearance Matters in Influence & Persuasion
Ethos: the Importance of Character in Influence & Persuasion
The Core of Influence & Persuasion: Ethos, Logos, and Pathos – Character, Reason, and Emotion
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly: the Ethics of Influence and Persuasion

Mike Clayton

About Mike Clayton 

Dr Mike Clayton is a (former) Project Manager and now a management educator. Having trained thousands of people at live workshops, seminars, and conferences, he now delivers training mainly via video. He has 14 books with international publishers and runs two successful YouTube channels. He is also the founder of OnlinePMCourses.com

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