Self Regulation: What is it and How to Build It
The second domain of Emotional Intelligence is Self Regulation. This is about managing your emotional state and the behavioral and social choices you make.
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Overview of Emotional Intelligence
This video is part of course module number 1.4.2
Program 1: Managing Yourself
Course 4: Emotional Intelligence
Section 2: The Components of Emotional Intelligence
Other videos in this section include:
🎬 Self Awareness https://youtu.be/qcWMsY2erI4
🎬 Self Motivation https://youtu.be/sJg3as0Kw1I
🎬 Social Awareness https://youtu.be/JbXpjpLM6kI
🎬 Social Skills https://youtu.be/l1JlcG_flj4
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The key components of self-regulation are:
• Trustworthiness and integrity
• Adaptability and flexibility
• Conscientiousness
• Optimism
• Self-control
• The ability to manage our emotional state, when it serves you to do so
Note that it doesn’t always serve us to manage our emotions – we need to accept them and embrace them. Only sometimes are there pressing priorities that our emotions hinder.
Managers, professionals, and leaders who can regulate their emotions:
• Make better decisions
• Avoid upsetting people around them
• Maintain stronger positive motivation
• Stick more closely to their values
• Perform better in solving problems and getting things done
Practice recognizing your triggers and deliberately remaining calm. Try:
• Deep breathing
• Stepping away for a moment
• Stating your emotion, rather than letting it dominate
The ABC Model
• Activating event is the trigger
• Beliefs you hold lead to your interpretation – which has
• Consequences for how you respond
So, examine your belief and interpretations.
The SCOPE Process
Stope, Clarify, Options, Proceed, Evaluate
Resilience Oxygen mask
Good fuel, Good rest, Good energy, Good relationships
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It doesn’t always serve us to manage our emotions. What are examples of times when:
1. you don’t want to alter your emotions? (1 MC CPD Point)
2. you do? (1 MC CPD Point)
You may also like to look at some of our other videos, which will also help control your Behavioral Choices:
3. How to Say NO: The Noble Objection https://youtu.be/zSKGJTUjftw
4. Overcome Overwhelm: Dealing with the Feeling of Being Overwhelmed
https://youtu.be/Gp21qbsesbc
5. Select one of the strategies we discuss in the video or one of the other videos. Use it for 2 weeks and then take time to evaluate how it worked for you. (4 MC CPD Points)
6. Repeat Exercise 5 (4 MC CPD Points)
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📖 Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ
https://geni.us/KxAZAZ8
📖 Working with Emotional Intelligence
https://geni.us/R024Ax
📖 The New Leaders: Transforming the Art of Leadership
https://geni.us/5ziIw
📖 Emotional Intelligence: Build Strong Social Skills and Improve Your Relationships
https://geni.us/Xn6BpoK
📖 Emotional Intelligence Pocketbook: Little Exercises for an Intuitive Life
https://geni.us/Ne8Wz
📖 EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence
https://geni.us/XoqvY
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00:00 – The second domain of Emotional Intelligence: Self-Regulation
00:18 – The Components of Self-Regulation
00:42 – What about Self-Motivation?
01:05 – Managing your emotions
01:38 – How can you regulate your emotions?
02:10 – When your emotions are in control
02:43 – The benefits of controlling your emotions
03:12 – How to regulate your emotions
03:52 – As easy as ABC
05:20 – Regulating your behaviors
05:36 – The SCOPE Process
06:30 – Oxygen Mask – Resilience
08:16 – See our other videos…
08:42 – Summing up
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