Social Skills: What are they and How to Build Them
Managers need to get the best from their teams. They need to win cooperation, resolve conflict, and communicate ideas. These lie in the Emotional Intelligence domain of Social Skills.
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Overview of Emotional Intelligence
This video is part of course module number 1.4.2
Program 1: Managing Yourself
Course 4: Emotional Intelligence
Section 2: The Components of Emotional Intelligence
Other videos in this section include:
🎬 Self Awareness https://youtu.be/qcWMsY2erI4
🎬 Self Regulation https://youtu.be/va1r9mDTdJo
🎬 Self Motivation https://youtu.be/sJg3as0Kw1I
🎬 Social Skills https://youtu.be/l1JlcG_flj4
= = LESSON NOTES
The key components of Social Skills are:
• Excellent communication
• Inspirational leadership
• Influencing and persuading skills
• Coaching and mentoring
• Collaborating, delegating, and managing conflict
• The ability to build rapport
‘People like people who are like themselves.’
Rapport is noticing and focusing on the similarity between yourself and the other person. Build rapport by increasing the similarities and we break rapport, by introducing differences. Some of the ways we can build rapport are:
• Dressing similarly
• Finding common interests, history, perspectives
• Matching posture, speech patterns, gestures, and expressions (synchrony)
Build Your Social Skills
Make time to get to know people, to listen to them, and to value them for who they are and what they can contribute – rather than deprecating them for their shortcomings.
Build your relationship through familiarity. Speak whenever the chance arises, and if it does not, make opportunities.
Give positive feedback, support, encouragement, and praise. And seeking their ideas, opinions, and advice will make the relationship more balanced.
Be prepared to take your share of the work, the blame, and anything else you expect of others, which is difficult or unpleasant.
Through it all, remain confident, resourceful, and optimistic.
Be likeable by smiling and being courteous.
Be respectful of everyone. If their behavior or performance is not all it could be, address the issues while remaining respectful of the person.
= = RECOMMENDED EXERCISE
1. Watch our video on Listening Skills https://youtu.be/YCIryXl-ApI
2. For two weeks, practice your listening skills mindfully at every opportunity (4 MC CPD Points)
3. Now choose one of the other ideas for improving your social skills. Apply that for a further 2 weeks (4 MC CPD Points)
= = RECOMMENDED READING
📖 Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ
📖 Working with Emotional Intelligence
📖 The New Leaders: Transforming the Art of Leadership
📖 Emotional Intelligence: Build Strong Social Skills and Improve Your Relationships
📖 Emotional Intelligence Pocketbook: Little Exercises for an Intuitive Life
📖 EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence
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= = CHAPTER MARKERS
00:00 – Getting the best form your team
00:23 – The key components of Social Skills
00:50 – Rapport
01:42 – People like people who…
01:57 – The foundation for social skills
02:25 – Non-verbal Communication
03:18 – Build your social skills
05:32 – Applications for social skills
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